A word from outside should not own your peace.

If your mood is rented out to the last thing someone said, the friendship is carrying a weight it cannot hold.

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A man thinks his problem is outside. The wife is like this, the husband is like that, there is too little money, the job is not good, people do not respect him, the world does not understand. And he spends his whole life trying to change circumstances. But perhaps he has never asked: do I even know this mind that every circumstance manages to disturb?

If someone praises you, you become happy. If someone criticizes you, you become unhappy. That means your peace is not in your own hands. Someone outside speaks a single word, and a storm rises within you. Then you say, He made me unhappy. No. He only touched a hidden place within you. If that place had been known, had been understood, another person's word could not have shaken you so much.

Therefore self-knowledge does not mean memorizing a few beautiful sentences about yourself. Self-knowledge means seeing, without running, whatever is happening within you. Anger came — see it. Envy came — see it. Fear came — see it. Love came — see it. Ego came — see it. And seeing does not mean that you immediately begin to change it. Only see. Because the moment you see something without judgment, the possibility of transformation arises in it.

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